The festivities began Saturday morning: all the Pomona folks met for breakfast at 10:30 at the hotel restaurant. We met up with Nicki and Justin, who we see fairly regularly in Los Angeles (but it’s always great to hang out with them). Boyar was also there, one of my fellow physics majors, as well as Emily from Glee Club, Jon, Anu, and Sharon (Torrin’s friends, who I recognized but didn’t really know that well), Matt and Leor (more friends of Torrin, from high school).
After everyone had scarfed down their pancakes and french toast, we all went to get dressed and prettied-up for the actual ceremony. A shuttle picked everyone up at the hotel at 1pm, and I wound up sitting across from a very familiar-looking redhead. My thought process went something like this: “I know her. Why do I know her? I think I have a picture of her. A picture of her and me..” Finally I figured it out: we had met in Dublin! It was Joanne, who was Torrin’s au pair for a few years some time back. When I went to Ireland, he gave me her phone number, and we met up for an evening of food and drink with some of her friends. It was great to see her again!
The ceremony was held at a modern-looking Catholic church, with about 90 attendees. The Pomona contingent stuck together, taking up a whole row. None of us are particularly religious (nor, to my knowledge, are Barb and Torrin, but at least one of their families must be), so there were a few points in the ceremony that I feel compelled to mock.
First, the hymn selection. Uck. Now, singing hymns was always the one part of church that I liked, so I know for a fact that there are some hymns with decent tunes and lyrics. For this ceremony, we sang “Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee” (otherwise known as the Ode to Joy rip-off), which wasn’t too bad. But the second selection was all about the blessings to befall the married couple if they just trust in and adore god. Nice enough sentiment, but it was splattered with some unfortunate visuals like “Your spouse will be like a fruitful vine” and “Your children like olive plants growing at your table.” Anu, who wasn’t actually looking at the words, later reported that she thought it was “awful plants.” “Awful olive plants” became the catchphrase of the day.
At the end of the ceremony, the priest blessed the couple, and asked the whole congregation to do so as well. We all had to hold our right hands up as if over the head of someone in front of us. Half of us later reported that it felt like a creepy “Heil Hitler” moment; the other half (or at least, me) was SORELY tempted to make the “live long and prosper” sign with the outstretched hand.
On a serious note, Torrin and Barb both looked STUNNING. Barb was in a gorgeous strapless gown, and Torrin always looks pretty nice in a tux! They’re so obviously crazy about each other that it was great to see them up there, both positively glowing.
The ceremony only lasted about 40 minutes (NOT a full mass, yay), after which everyone headed outside to blow bubbles at the departing bride and groom. Maybe arming all the Pomonans with bottles of bubble goo was not the best idea, as bubble wars soon ensued.

We were back at the hotel by 2:45, and the reception didn’t start until 6. No sooner had we stepped off the shuttle than discussions began as to where we could procure beer. Justin and Jeff set off to a gas station that was kind of within walking distance, and the rest of us headed up to one of the hotel rooms with as many different sets of cards as we were able to purchase from the gift shop. The five girls present launched into a very aggressive round of Pounce (think competitive Solitaire). It turns out that we all make these kind of grunting, pissed-off-animal noises when playing Pounce, which was kind of funny.

Once the boys returned with beer, more college-style hijinks ensued. Pounce became sillier and sillier, and then Sharon introduced the “Ass game,” where you replace one word of a movie title with the word “Ass” and see what the funniest things you can come up with are. Notable entries from Saturday (Star Wars and Disney movies make particular good ones):
Ass Wars
The Empire Strikes Ass
Ass of the Jedi
A New Ass
Attack of the Asses
The Ass King
Indiana Jones and the Temple of Ass
Well, you get the idea.
After Anu had cleaned up in Pounce, and I’d observed several rounds of bridge (that is one weird game, I must say), it was time to go freshen up and hit the reception.
Torrin and Barb threw an excellent party! Once again, all the Pomonans were together, this time at the Zinfandel table. We prided ourselves on being the table that went through the most bottles of wine (not Zinfandel, though). Aside from the drinking, we had a truly excellent time eating, dancing and socializing. The music selection was top notch (included opportunities for swing dancing and polka - my calves are still killing me).
There was a bit of a to-do over the wedding cake. After the bride/groom cake cutting, the cake itself was carted out of the room to be sliced up and then presumably served to guests. Instead, a pile of little foil-wrapped packages soon appeared by the door. I guess in some places it’s traditional to take the cake home instead of devouring it at the reception. In place of cake, some sort of fried saurkraut rolls were served (Polish tradition). Barb seemed a bit upset at the mix-up, but we all assured her that no one minded. Torrin’s dad finally made the first move and just dived into the foil packages, at which most of the rest of us followed suit. Mmm, wedding cake.

Everything else seemed to go smoothly. There were the usual first dances (Torrin and Barb’s was to Dave Matthews “Crush”), the bouquet-tossing (caught by maid of honor Melissa, if I remember correctly), garter throwing, de-veiling (everyone circles around Barb and Torrin as her veil and his jacket can finally be removed), and of course, the polka. :) We had a great time at the Zinfandel table; Amol took charge of making sure there was always a bottle of Merlot at the table, and Christina eventually took it upon herself to start ordering rounds of shots for everyone.
Justin and I sneaked out for a cigarette towards the end, which we smoked indoors, in the hallway. That just felt weird. We’re both way too used to California. It just feels dirty and wrong to burn a cigarette indoors! I’ve been darned good about not smoking for the last few months, but it’s just too tempting to resist after 10 or 11 drinks.
I even managed to do a little catching up with Barb and Torrin. Sounds like life is going really well for both of them. Torrin’s got one year left of school, after which it will be Barb’s turn - probably somewhere on the east coast to study pathology. They had such a great group of friends and family at the wedding; it was really a terrific vibe to be surrounded by so many people who truly wished them the best!
The reception wound down around 1am, and once again, the Pomonans gathered upstairs for a nightcap and general silliness. At this point, people seemed evenly divided between about-to-pass-out drunkenness and overly-excited-and-silly drunkenness. (I suspect I was the latter.) I chatted up maid of honor Melissa, who was VERY, VERY excited to meet me because she is also about to marry someone 8 years older, who’s kind of a quiet type, that she met at work. We discussed the merits of older men while Imol told a “scary story” about an Indian soothsayer that ended in his jumping suddenly at one of the girls and scaring the bajeesus out of her. Boyar lay face down on the bed (he had to catch an 8:30 am plane the next day). I remember laughing like crazy about something, but I cannot for the life of me remember what - it’s probably just as well, as I’m sure it was highly innapropriate material.
After about an hour of “college time,” I finally said my goodbyes and crashed. Woke up at 8:30 the next morning to the worst hangover I’ve had in YEARS. I’m just not that much of a drinker these days! Luckily I’d spaced it out over a long time Saturday, or I think I would have been pretty unpleasantly sick (not a good way to be on a 4-hour plane trip). I managed to survive the trip home - and Jeff managed to put up with my being rather out of it - and by Sunday night I was feeling relatively human again.
It’s so cool that Torrin and Barb are married! :) I enjoyed the reunion-esque feel of the weekend so much, at times I almost forgot we were there for a reason. They’re both such fabulous people, who saw me through some pretty depressed single-person moments in college. I love that we’re all happily married now, just a few years later. Yay!